Dating Today

We hope that our loved ones date and marry someone who is a good, caring person – someone who will love and appreciate them for the rest of their lives. It would also be an added plus if the spouse got along with the rest of the family. Many times, while “researching” a shidduch, one will ask about “his/her family.” You’ll find out about siblings and whom they married – and always it’s “They are a great family,” but you never really find out about the family dynamics.

Dear Goldy,

I am writing for my son. He had a horrible trick played on him. He had been going with a girl and then he comes to find out that one of the dates he had was with her identical twin sister! The twin sister went out with my son - not the original twin he had been dating.

I have always said that I’m here to be a friend when you need one or an ear to vent to. Someone has taken me up on my offer and needs a little pep talk, a little positivity push to actually do what she wants to do. I’m here for my readers in any way they need me.

Dear Goldy:

 I am looking to marry someone who will sit and learn for at least the first two or three years after we marry. If he wants more time, that can be discussed, but the first two years are really important to me. I use shadchanim that only redt shidduchim to girls like me and bachurim who want to learn after marriage.

Another unbelievable letter:

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Dear Goldy:

Dear Goldy:

I need your advice, or at least your words of wisdom. I’m 23 and have been dating since I got back from seminary. Now I’m dating someone who seems to be everything I want. But there are some parts about him that are…problematic. He’s 33 and divorced with a child. He shares custody of his daughter with his ex.