Opinion

Does anyone in your life have a negative impact on your mood or even your self-esteem? Some people predictably create stress and negativity in your life. They can suck the life right out of you and even make you feel worse about yourself at times.

What do you wish for more than anything? Could it be a sense of security, soundness, and safety? Did your life goals include a relationship, house, or career that would usher in a sense of peace and harmony? Do you believe in Happily Ever After? You know what they say: Happily Ever After is not a fairytale. It’s a choice.

Do you allow yourself to be psychologically vulnerable? Does she know the ways you are scared or even weak? Does he know how needy you truly feel at times? Is it weird in here, or is just me? Do they know what a kooky oddball you can be? You may need to shed that cape and certainly the mask of “normalcy” in order to be truly open and known.

Would you say that your relationships are fragile or solid? Perhaps you imagine that your friendships will be conflict-free. When problems emerge, as they inevitably will, you take it as alarming evidence that your friendship or relationship is fundamentally defective.

Sure, we would all love to help those we love. But intention does not always translate into the ability to be truly helpful or even of assistance. You may long to be supportive to him but lack all the skills to do so.

Do you even know what is truly hurting you? If not, then how can you ever put it right? If you lack insight into your own uneasiness and unhappiness, it can torment your inner life. It can manifest as fear, anger, worry, or even regret.