Hooked On Healing

“I’m always right, even when I’m right about being wrong.” I’ll bet a boatload of opinions have been coming your way as of late. The masses all appear fixated on certain topics and willingly offer many unwanted presumptions and postulations. Your friends and family may be well-intentioned, but they are not always the “experts” they imagine themselves to be.

‘Take my advice, I don’t use it anyway.’ When you find yourself facing a problem or dilemma in your life, do you ask for advice? Who do you ask? A close friend or a loved one? Truth be told, oftentimes what we are looking for is validation, not guidance. So you asked her what to do, but you already made that decision and you just want her to give you the thumbs up.

Are you unwilling to extend that ole olive branch, or do you need to beat people with it? Holding onto grudges? Have you ever truly forgiven someone? What are your reasons for forgiving some people but not others? As you move through life, you eventually collect and stockpile resentments, grievances, and even grudges against those whom you feel did you wrong. It’s been said: When you hold grudges, your hands aren’t free to catch blessings. Heck, my friend is holding a grudge after a food fight. He has a chip on his shoulder.

You know what they say: Women spend more time thinking about what men think than men actually spend thinking. But what happens when you have an annoying thought, or you experience a distressing event? After all, we all need to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness. We have built in psychological strategies to help us put distance between those undesirable feelings and ourselves. They are known as defense mechanisms.

Whoa. Lots of lines have gotten blurred these days, causing heaps of misunderstandings. Is it even possible to view some things from his point of view? You don’t agree one iota with her way of thinking? Take a deep breath and stay courteous and considerate, even if you can’t stay charming. Make a choice to get along with others – and practice, practice, practice.

Careful who you pretend to be. You might forget who you are. So, you arrived at this intersection, and may be questioning everything you thought you knew about life. Whether we know it or not, existential crises are almost always spiritual in nature. At times, you may feel like you don’t even understand who you are anymore. Who do you want to be? Do you even remember who you were before society told you who you should be? But heck, it’s Friday so any plan of being a productive member of society is officially thrown out the window.