Dear Alice:

Here is my problem. I have been dieting for months and lost a lot of weight – almost 40 pounds. However, I still have over 25 pounds to lose in order to reach my goal weight, but I don’t seem to be losing anymore. I don’t eat cake or cookies, and don’t touch a bite of kugel, but I am still not losing any weight. Is this the dreaded “plateau”? Did my body just get used to the way I am eating? Please help!

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  Dear Alice,

I just got back from Miami and I am so disappointed. For the first time ever, I actually stayed on my plan while on vacation. I didn’t touch the bread basket or desserts at restaurants, stayed away from the late-night munching aside from my “treat,” and chose sugar-free frozen yogurt instead of milk shakes. However, when I came to weigh in, I found that I had lost less than half a pound despite all my efforts! What went wrong?