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Dear Goldy:
My family isn’t rich or even well off. My siblings and I started working as teenagers and we’ve always bought what we wanted. Our parents took care of our needs, but if there was anything extra any of us wanted, we’d pay for it ourselves. After high school, I seriously started thinking about saving for my wedding.
Allow me to interrupt my usual flow of articles. The articles that have been prepared weeks in advance are patiently waiting their turn to be submitted for publication.
Dear Goldy:
My profile is on a few dating websites. I was contacted by a guy from one of them. We began communicating online and then, when we realized things were still moving in the right direction, we started calling each other and hearing each other’s voice. So far, so good, right?
Dear Goldy:
I am a kallah, so no need for dating advice here. I’m looking for life advice. I’ve spoken with my parents. I want to get a neutral party to weigh in.
Dear Goldy:
I’ve been dating for many years. In the beginning, I only wanted to date someone who was planning on living in the tri-state area. I’m very close with my family and I can’t imagine going weeks or months without seeing them. Skype and Zoom are not the same thing as in-person. I can’t go to my sister’s house for a cup of coffee one afternoon or go shopping with my mom or have her pop over and bring me some “extra” supper that was left over if I live out of town. This has been the life for my married siblings, and I want it. They are always popping over one another’s house or going places together with their kids. I didn’t think this would be an issue. This is New York, New Jersey, and even Connecticut; there are thousands of guys out here and I felt like there was no need to look elsewhere.
I published this letter a few years ago. It broke my heart and I’m sure the hearts of readers, as well. I never forgot about this woman because of what had happened to her, the cruelty and premeditation of it. But I am elated to say that I received an email from her right after Purim this year with an update.
