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As per usual, I receive emails after a Yom Tov from singles and married people alike telling me of a positive or negative experience they had over the holiday. Many emails are wonderful, and I’d love to share them all, but I haven’t the space. Because of that, I had to pick and choose from letters and take out excerpts to share. I also shared excerpts from my responses. Like always, I try to balance things by providing views from both sides – those with positive and negative stories.
Dear Goldy:
My parents are divorced. My father remarried. My siblings and I don’t spend a lot of time with him. We really didn’t have a choice or a say in whom he married, but we were fine with that. We lucked out. His wife is nice and doesn’t seem to mind when I or any of my siblings is around.
Authors Note: I may have written about a similar topic years ago, but I can’t find it because I don’t remember the title. The article was about a Facebook post and the reaction it garnered. It involved dating, and how people feel about...something. It’s not in any article that has been published since 2019. I checked. I’m taking the chance and hoping this was not the topic. If this is very similar to another article, I apologize, but I hope, for most of you, it will be new.
Keeping with the theme of June graduations, I, too, have pearls of wisdom I’d like to pass along to daters, new and experienced. I have so much to write, to pass on, but I’m limited by space and the number of words I’m allotted. Below are just a few points I wanted daters to read. There are many more, and no I don’t think these are the most important, which is why they are here. They were randomly chosen from my mind.
Dear Goldy:
I’m writing for my sister. My sister is a sweet, fun, creative young woman – she’s normal. She’s 27 and just went out with a jerk.
I’ve always said that having differences of opinion is good for a relationship. But some take that too far. Too many times I have heard that a couple stopped dating “because he/she thought that ______. I mean, isn’t that the stupidest thing you’ve ever heard?” No. Breaking up with them over that is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard – or one of the Top Ten.
